Fantel memorial for my love

On my mind this Monday is the fantel memorial for my love.  Yesterday as we celebrated the first father’s day without him as well as 5 months since he passed suddenly.  I wanted to do something that would honor him.  So with my mom’s help we said a little prayer and lighted a candle.  As well as moved his flag {he served in the Marines} which had been in my bedroom into the living room, where it will now reside.  Back in November when I let go of my previous apartment and moved all my stuff to his house we had talked about where to hang my fantel.  Well the talk didn’t go so well as he wanted to put his dad’s flag {he served in the Army} on it.  Which was fine with me but I said I also decorate it for different holidays.  Well he wasn’t having it he said that only the flag would go there and should never be touched.  Well since he spoiled my plans I never did get around to putting the fantel up in his house.  So I guess to make it up to him I’ve decided to honor his wishes.  My fantel will no longer get decorated but will just hold his flag.


When I lost my love we choose to honor his wished to be cremated.  The ashes were kept by his family.  I now realized how being buried gives your family and loved ones someplace to go and be closer to you.  When you are not buried yes you can think that you are close to them anywhere & everywhere.  But you miss having a place to go and be closer, if that makes any sense.

For my daughter and me this fantel will now be where we can honor him.  Someplace we can feel closer to him.

A huge thanks to my sisters for getting me the engraved case to hold his flag.  It means the world to me.

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2 Responses

  1. Carolann says:

    What a beautiful way to remember him Anj. I love the flag and frame much and the beautiful pictures around it.

  2. Sue says:

    Hi Anj, this fantal memorial you set up is a wonderful tribute to him. I know what the fantal means to you and now it will mean even more. Thank you for sharing it with us.